Case One:
I have hi-lighted in red certain words that are “buzz words” for the remedy that I chose for these 2 autistic kids. Notice how even though the cases are different, the characteristics of the remedy show through nonetheless. In this case, Mary, “Allen’s” mother, is in Black Ink, I am in Blue. The second case was a Quiz that some of you might remember, even though it was 9 years ago.
From:
mary….@…..
To:
[email protected]
Sat, May 26, 2018 at 6:27 PM
Hello Elaine,
I’m emailing you from New Mexico….
Oh! I love the Southwest, my mother lived in that part of the country for years! Here I am on a mountain top in Arizona:
I wanted to inquire about a consult for my son, “Allen”. He is 13 with a genetic syndrome called Kleefstra Syndrome. Kleefstra is so rare there are only about 500 people diagnosed in the entire world. He functions at a toddler level but has very good receptive language. The gene effected by Kleefstra affects a lot of things, primarily his ability to control his behavior. Long story short, at age 8, all of a sudden, he did almost a full 180 degree turn in personality due to entering puberty too early. He became wildly aggressive (almost animal-like during rages), has a huge personal space bubble, self-injurious, self-isolates, etc. Prior to the change he was the absolute easiest, sweetest, loving, unaggressive child with special needs 🙁
At age 3 he was treated with sequential homeopathy for 18 months by The Homeopathy Center of Houston and we saw great results, but that was prior to any diagnosis; he was delayed in all areas, we knew something was wrong, but no one could diagnose him until the age of 8.
I’ve never heard anyone say that homeopathy can’t cure a “genetic” disorder; also, doctors are calling pretty much everything they can’t cure “genetic” nowadays when, in fact, it’s often their own pharmaceuticals that are at the bottom of all this! “You’ve got the gene!” is their fall-back line to whatever diagnosis you get.
He cannot really carry on a meaningful conversation. He can form 5-6 word sentences, but it’s always about the same subjects. So he talks like a toddler, but seems to understand what we say at a much higher level.
When he was treated by Homeopathy Center of Houston at 3 yrs, he was a totally different child back then. Zero aggression, not a stubborn bone in his body, agreeable to EVERYTHING, always happy, and zero sense of personal space. But now, if you get in his personal space, he’ll attack you! Houston was treating him for Autism even though we didn’t know what was wrong. He did have a few mild autistic symptoms; didn’t really respond, kind of in a fog, and he wasn’t walking…..zero balance. They treated the gut to effect the brain, and within the first month he started walking!
Wonderful! See? Now, how is that possible if it’s a “genetic” disease?
And he kind of ‘woke-up’ over the course of treatment. It was amazing. But after about 15 months we weren’t seeing any more progress and it was $900/month!
When he was 1.5 yrs old we had our first taste of homeopathy when Dr. Stephen Weiss addressed his chronic distended belly. He gave him one remedy and the child drained (discharged) from his eyes, ears and nose for a solid 2 weeks…..and his tummy became normal.
He does understand MUCH better than he can communicate. Examples of his sentences: “I go school”, “Allen was nice today”, “Lily [the dog] bark man”. His sentences are usually 3-5 words, sometimes he’ll give a nice 5-6 word sentence, but not routinely.
He really never was normal for his age. We saw that something was not right at birth, but kept hoping it was due to being 9 weeks premature. We started therapies at 8 months old.
I only hug and kiss him if he’s in his bed, with blanket on top and I have a hold of his hands. Or standing up while holding his hands.
His dad and I are still together, and without dad, I don’t know what I would do; Allen would probably be in a residential treatment program which would be heartbreaking. Allen has to have help with everything; dressing, eating, bathing, etc. He has really poor fine motor skills and can’t do anything for himself.
His attacks are vicious (lately I’d say ‘savage’) and with me he won’t stop coming at me; he goes from 1 to 100 in 2 seconds and I better be ready at all times. Scratching, biting, trying to pull my hair. I always get the upper hand because I have to!!! I literally feel like I’m fighting for my life. If he got the upper hand, he’d put me in the hospital. And because of that, I have to be very careful how I operate around him. Our only saving grace at this point is that he refuses to leave his room! If he wanted to come out, it would be too dangerous. HOWEVER….when dad is home, he rarely attacks me…. so I’m safe, for the most part. Interesting and disturbing 🙁
I definitely agree he has autism; mild symptoms before the aggression started, much more severe now.
He’s on a gluten free, casein free diet with lots of vitamins/minerals, probiotics, etc.
Mary, they’re not doing any good and are probably very expensive. Here is a list of autistic traits. Tell me if Allen has any of them:
Resistance to change; likes and insists on sameness
Answer: Yes!
Difficulty in expressing needs; difficulty in using words, so gestures are adopted.
Answer: Yes! Can use words though when he is calm.
Repeating words or phrases in place of normal, responsive language
Answer: YES!
Unusual behavior, laughs without any reason. Shows distress for reasons not clear to others
Answer: At times, but not regularly
Prefers to be alone
Answer: Yes, but talks to me from his room all day. Wants his door open, baby gate closed
Tantrums.
Answer: Numerous. Getting worse
No socialization; Feels upset and faces difficulty in mixing with others.
Answer: He’s the ‘most social’ student at school. But with certain teachers and doesn’t really interact with the students.
Neither likes to hug or embrace others nor likes to be hugged or embraced by others.
Answer: This comes and goes. At times he’ll let me hug.
Has little or no eye contact.
Answer: Yes.
He does not respond to normal teaching methods
Answer: True
Indulges in sustained odd play
Answer: Doesn’t even play anymore.
He spins objects
Answer: He did at 1 yr old, but we did lots of therapy and wouldn’t let him do it.
Has obsessive attachment to objects –
Answer: to dogs, but a fear of them also
Has apparent over-sensitivity or under-sensitivity to pain
Answer: Yes, under-sensitivity to pain.
Has no real fear of danger; lacks common sense
Answer: Fear of everything new. Love/fear of dogs
Has physical over activity or extreme under activity —
Answer: Lays in his bed when not at school.
Is non-responsive to verbal cues; Acts as if he is deaf though he has normal hearing organs.
Answer: At times!
Mary,
Originally I thought of Belladonna, but, something doesn’t go for Belladonna, it’s the “hiding” thing (“isolating”) hiding in his room and not coming out. If anything, Belladonna has the urge to escape, would be trying to “break out” of any confined space. So with that, I turned my attention to Tarentula hispanica (no, not a misspelling. Tarentula is Latin for Tarantula; all our remedy names are in Latin).
Tarantulas are very violent animals, will definitely bite and attack, but here’s the thing, they also hide! They hide behind a rock, waiting for the unsuspecting prey to walk by, then they make a sudden move, a leap, a jump, attack, and kill and then just as suddenly, return to their hiding place. So, Tarentula covers suddenness, isolation, attack, violence, hair-pulling, scratching, biting…
Meanwhile, the drugs he’s on, I’d have to conclude that they’re not working? Because you say he’s getting worse. Have you looked up the side-effects? Does he have any of them?
Anyway, my vote at the moment goes for Tarentula 30C. If I change my mind, I’ll let you know. I know some people think this is a low potency, but, I really don’t want a violent teenager to have an aggravation.
Recently, he complains his tummy hurts. Sometimes, it’s clear he’s planning a ‘sick-out’ at school to get attention.
Pretending to be sick to get attention is another Tarentula trait.
Elaine, you are amazing. Your explanation of Tarentula……..“Bingo!!” This child is pure hell to live with. He’s exactly that: defiant, needs my or his teachers constant attention, definitely calmed by music, some days he’s pretty chilled out, other days like Wednesday he talked about the same subject for probably 10 straight hours and several times a minute. He destroys things now, violent, violent rages, tends to rage when it’s just me and him at home, and so many times prior to the last 6 months, he would stop when I closed his door and walked away.
Tarentula note: “if there is no audience, there’s no acting out.”–Murphy’s Materia Medica.
However, lately he doesn’t stop until the rage is out of his system?
His psych dr said he has predatory behavior, more so with me, and it’s an actual diagnosis in the psych world.
Already we should know that we need a remedy in the Animal Kingdom.
We’ve been with that doctor for two years and he’s getting worse. And several of the drugs the dr. has prescribed, like Prozac….I never gave….they are too scary. And you are completely correct…the supplements I’m giving, and the meds he’s taking……WHY??? They aren’t helping!!
Doctors want to think they’re “doing something” but it’s all pointless.
Thank you for the reality check 🙂
I am 99% certain that Dr. Weiss gave him Calcarea carbonica which made him drain and his tummy went normal.
That’s all well and good, there’s a lot to be said for a “normal” tummy; but, when a patient is violent, self-injurious and homicidal, a remedy for bloating should not be the homeopath’s first thought.
Resistant to change: If he doesn’t get to ride the bus to and from school that’s a rage, or if he doesn’t go to school on a school day, that’s a rage.
School breaks and summer are just hell, especially the first few days of break. Each year gets worse. At school, there’s a definite schedule, and his teachers say he knows it. But he’s been so much better at school, I don’t hear of these terrible rages.
Repeating words/phrases: Each day seems to have a theme, sometimes it’s only a day, or it can last for a few days. And some days he’ll talk non-stop….to where at the end of the night my lips are numb. If he’s in a good mood, I can tell him that’s enough, let’s talk about something else, but lately, he won’t accept that. Welcome to hell *** AND….I have to reply to him!!!! I can’t just say yes, or ok. I mostly have to repeat what he says…..if I don’t, most of the time he’ll escalate! And he says ‘Momma’ numerous times a day. Tells me ‘help please’ numerous times a day; just so I can go re-adjust his blanket on his bed, even if it doesn’t need to be. Or when I get to his doorway, he’ll tell me the phrase of the day:
“Rodney go to granny’s”, “Momma call Stevie”, “Allen was nice to Rodney”, “Sebastian hit Bernadette”, “Travis talk to Sebastian”, “Travis big mad face” (all about School) “Naiwah hit Mike”, “Russell eat cheetos”…. obsessive conversation that I cannot get him to stop. This is daily.
Odd laughing: Once in a while he’ll burst out in laughter for no reason, but usually it’s appropriate…when someone else gets in trouble.
Talking to me all day: Yep, from his room, he talks to me almost constantly with his phrases, with breaks here and there. When dad is home and I’m gone, he’s very quiet. When he’s trying to talk to me, and dad tries to talk to him instead, he says ‘happy’, even if that’s not what he was going to tell me. He does not play in his room. He lays in his bed and listens to music. If I were to put a toy in his room, he would want it to ‘go away!’
Baby gate: When he became aggressive, we used baby gates to block the dog in the front part of house for safety. But then he wanted a gate across his doorway. And since he’s so dangerous now, we installed a locking baby gate (for staircases) in his doorway. But everytime I’ve tried to leave it open, he insists it be closed. I don’t even bother to try to leave it open now, because if I’m here alone, and he goes into a rage, he’ll come bursting out to get me. If dad is here, he won’t come out to get me, and settles fairly quickly.
Provocation of rages? That is what is so scary about him. Often there is zero provocation. And he’s slow at everything because he has such fine & gross motor delay…but he strikes in an instant. His teachers say the same thing. The school system has sent in the autism specialists and they insist there is always an antecedent to the behavior, and every teacher for the past 4 years has had a battle, trying to explain to those specialists, that in his case, there is often just a switch that is flipped without reason.
School: This last school year he’s at a new public school, ‘state-of-the-art’ school for special needs/autism. In his classroom there are 3 students and 3 teachers. First part of this year, he had a female teacher and he was very aggressive. I know her and I know that she is a good teacher. She was also pregnant; can you imagine my horror? I wrote in his IEP that he was never to be left alone with her….ever. She left at Christmas and the male in that class took over…and Allen had his best semester in 5 years.
Prior to last year, he was at a public school specifically for autism — the two schools interact and do training and field trips together. This new school has a school service dog. He freaked out for months when he would see the dog. They had to stop letting the dog go into his classroom and avoid all ‘sightings’ on campus. He’s at school from 8:45 – 3:45 M-F. Thank God!!!!!
Diagnosis of Kleefstra: When they did genetic testing, we met with a genetics dr who showed us the testing that Allen has a 9 chromosome deletion, or part is missing. He handed us a paper of medical garbage, and said ‘Sorry, it’s so rare, we know very little about it. But good luck!”
That about sums up our experience with all traditional doctors 🙁
Our dog Lily: She is two years old, and he has literally never pet her 🙁 If he grabbed, he may not let go. If she goes near his gate, he wants her to ‘go away’ immediately. But he doesn’t want her leaving the house EVER. We have to sneak her out. She seems to like him from a distance.
Wants to be neat: He doesn’t seem to care about not bathing right now, used to love it. If he gets his clothes wet or dirty, he wants to be changed immediately. That used to be the case too with his pullups, but since he now wants dad to do all that, he will literally stay in a wet pullup all day until dad gets home to change it. He’ll really only allow me to do it when dad is out of town.
Sitting in closet: he just recently started that. Sometimes it’s because where he ends up after his rage, sometimes he’ll end it standing by the window and stay there for hours. He has a few times, gotten off the bus and run straight to the closet and lay down, silently, without raging.
Wheelchair: We have a small wheelchair/transport chair with a seatbelt. Its the only way we take him places, which we don’t anymore, really.
He used to want to go to granny’s, but he himself insists on being in the chair to go there; he knows it’s the only way he can control himself.
We used to be able to bring him out of his room in the chair to the patio, but not anymore. It’s a total fluke when he will do it occasionally. He gets his haircut in his chair, dad shaves his head while I sit holding his hands and talking to him to distract him. Usually, he makes it through, barely, but on another note……he can’t handle me and dad (or any two people) being in his room at the same time.
Talking: His words are not clear, but clear enough to understand if you know Allenese 🙂 He does use “Allen, me, and I” somewhat appropriately.
Affection: He always had zero problem with affection, until the change in 2013. Now, I can only hug him if he’s in that mood while he’s wrapped in a blanket and I have hold of his hands. Some days he’s all about blowing kisses and telling people, “Love you, my heart”, but it never lasts. Often, I just enter his room, and his demeanor changes. His eye contact is ok, not great, but not completely non-existent. I find if we lock eyes for a few seconds, that irritates him. He has a bed with a headboard. So if I have to dress him, he’s facing away, sitting in his bed, and I usually have a hand on the arm that could grab. I used to be able to have him stand up and face away to dress him, not so anymore, too dangerous. To put his shoes on, or change his knee dressing when he’s bitten his knee open, he lays down, we pile blankets on his upper body, covering his face so he doesn’t see, and change quickly as he’s quick to grab from under the blankets. It’s a whole lot of stupid!!!! 🙂 We put his finger foods on the flat part of the headboard and he takes the food.
Dad: No clue why I’m safe when dad is at home, but that has become blatantly obvious the last 6/9 months.
Dad is super non-violent and Allen will rarely go at him with the same viciousness that he does with me. Dad is a big, strong guy too. I’m not violent either, but when Allen gets me, it’s a fight for my life or to not end up in the hospital. When dad is here, Allen may grab, and if he gets ahold of me, he’ll release almost immediately when I yell for dad. Yes, it is surprising to me too that I haven’t packed my bags and driven off into the sunset screaming ‘Peace Out!!”
I’m ready to order the remedy and emergency kits. Let me know if after all this detail, you still think Tarentula?
Yes, for sure.
Hi Elaine,
Got that – it is Tarentula Hispanica. It’s ordered and I went with next day air shipping so it should be here tomorrow.
Yes, no real conversation. Although if I ask him questions, he can answer, but always returns to his favorite phrases. It’s him talking AT me all day, really. And no, I can’t just say ‘ok’. He’ll repeat until I repeat back to him….and if I don’t repeat, he’ll escalate. Sometimes I just don’t reply, and that’s ok for a period of time, but then he’ll start talking again and the cycle starts again.
Sometimes he’ll say Momma and my reply is enough, sometimes he repeats Momma help please until I go to his room to see what he wants…and it’s either for me to adjust his blanket (95 times a day) or tell me the phrase of the day.
Sent: Wed, Jun 6, 2018 11:31 am
Subject: Update – Allen
Hi Elaine,
So the remedy came yesterday. Allen had an awesome day on Monday, go figure, but as expected, he lost it again last night when dad was at basketball practice with Jett. A full-on, 20 minute rage, until dad walked in. Then he was calm. We went ahead and dosed at about 8:30 pm and he went to sleep. We didn’t notice anything significant.
This morning, he was a tad agitated, but dad was home. Once dad left, I didn’t know if he’d rage or not, just getting a little more agitated. I dosed at 6:30am
Was he agitated at that time?
and by 7:15 he was yawning, big yawns, which is unusual for him in the morning. 🙂
Children often get sleepy after the right remedy is given, so, I would consider this a positive sign.
By the time the bus came at 8am, he was in operating in full slow motion. He asked me to help him step onto the bus, which I never do because it’s always a set-up. But he was so slow and sleepy I had to help. He got on the bus with ZERO attempt at grabbing or biting me.
Alright!!!!! There ya go! Success!
He’s of course, still on his meds,
His “meds”, which are doing nothing…
and his a.m. meds tend to slow him down only slightly…
You know, Mary, the action of these drugs are going to be exaggerated if the remedy is working, because the strength is based on his level of agitation. If he’s not agitated, the strength of these drugs is going to be way out of proportion. Just a heads-up about that.
…but never to this degree. So to me……this is freaking fantastic!!!!
Great news!
Your article on dosing….it’s my understanding I’m to dose three times a day, on a regular schedule, and that becomes less frequent as he gets better.
You’re always re-assessing your dosing schedule, Mary. You’ll be working on trial and error in the beginning, but you will eventually figure out how long a dose lasts, what your signals are that you need to redose, and again, these drugs are a wild card, Mary. See my FAQ article as I explain how to get off drugs:
https://elainelewis.hpathy.com/faq/
You will be needing the 200C, 1M and 10M so order them now and be ready. You may need to “plus” (raise the potency) of your 30C bottle at some point soon because you’ll be noticing that the remedy’s not working as well or isn’t holding as long as it used to. For plussing instructions, see my FAQ article linked to above.
Hi Elaine!
Hi Mary!
Hope you are well!
I think so….
Another update:
Good, I’m anxious to hear!
We started last Wed with 30c. I’ve been dosing him two to three times a day. Since starting, he has had no rages.
No rages? That’s five days with no rages!
Those were almost daily prior to the remedy.
Dad & brother would ‘sneak out of the house’ the last several days to basketball, acting like they were just going out to shoot baskets in the driveway. Eventually, after a few hours, I know Allen figured out they were not home, but still no rages.
Wow!
That’s very positive because he would always rage when they left.
Excellent!
Also no self-injury since Wed.
Wonderful!
Still staying in his room, in his bed, with his comforter up to his neck at all times.
That will get better, I assume; but, it’s the least of our problems!
Yesterday, he was much more agitated, and maybe over the past 2-3 days he’s been just a tad bit more agitated each day, but not significant. So yesterday evening, sensing a lot more agitation, I plussed the 30c bottle…to a 33c, right?
Good idea, that’s what I would have done.
The 200, 1M & 10M will be here today.
OK but you don’t need them yet.
It was an immediate calm.
Wow! Calm is what we want to see! And right after the dose too! More confirmation that we have the right remedy!
A little later in the evening he even let me brush his teeth and sat in his bean bag chair when I asked, but I had to count to 3 first for him to get out of his bed and go. But he hasn’t gotten in the bean bag for ME when asked, in a very long time. So….this morning…maybe I did this wrong? I dosed at 6:30.
Oh geez. Yeah. Sometimes, Mary, when we repeat a remedy when the previous dose is still working? The second dose antidotes the first and…you’re right back where you started from.
He was fine through breakfast with dad. I went to change his wrist bandaid from the last time he bit himself, and before I could blink, he was up slamming his head into the wall, biting himself, full rage etc. Dad had to restrain him.
See? This is what can happen! This is why you cannot be on a “schedule” in homeopathy! Dose–not because it’s “time”, but because the patient is starting to relapse!
I did the “aggravation zapper” and over the next hour he calmed, and was quite ‘slow’ by the time the bus came at 8:00.
Excellent! Good for you!
Should I not have dosed him this morning?
Right! I don’t think so. I have to think, if he’s calm and not agitated, he doesn’t need a dose. If he starts acting agitated, he does need a dose.
It’s so hard with him, because even the slightest agitation can go to full rage in 2 seconds…..so I was trying to stay ahead of him.
Yes I know, there’s a lot to be said for “staying ahead of him”, I’m just not sure to what extent it can be done. At least we know we have the right remedy, that’s the important thing. And your instincts on when to plus the bottle were right on!
Thank you!!
Mary
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Case-2:
Wonder Nephew
Tarentula key words are in red.
Mom, what’s the quiz this month?
What are you holding up?
The Elton John t-shirt Pam gave me for Christmas!
That was so nice of her….Anyway, you remember “Wonder Woman”, right?
Of course I do! Is “Wonder Woman” in the quiz again?
Well, actually, it’s her sister.
Oh, “Wonder Sister”?
Actually, it’s Wonder Sister’s son.
So, “Wonder Nephew”?
That’s right…. I asked “Wonder Sister” to fill out the Children’s Questionnaire:
Children’s Questionnaire
Name of child: “Wonder Nephew”
Client’s name: “Wonder Sister”
Address: London, England
Telephone number:
Email address:
Date: 14th January 2017
Gender: male
Weight: 20 Kgs
Height: 108cm (approx.)
Date of Birth: 6th July 2012
Body type: tall/thin-average
Nationality/race: We are from India. We came to England 8.5 years ago.
_______________________________________________
What is the chief complaint?
Wonder Nephew has been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder recently.
Wonder Nephew is a lovely child who is very chatty and likes things “his way”.
So, basically, selfish, demanding, uncooperative and inconsiderate.
The main issue we have is he would not focus on what the others are trying to say to him or ask him to do. Because of his attitude of wanting things his own way, it gets difficult to get him to follow any instructions.
We generally have to make up a lot of stories to try and convince him to do what he needs to do. Simple things like brushing his teeth twice a day is a routine he knows since he was a small baby. However, we end up reminding him every night why he has to brush his teeth and so come in the bathroom before going to bed and reading a story. He runs around to avoid it as much as he can.
He is capable enough to almost dress himself but rarely is he in a mood to do this on his own. I generally spend a lot of time talking to him while helping him put on his uniform in the mornings which takes up a lot of my time and energy.
He has trouble focusing on the task at hand in school and at home while doing any homework. He finds all sorts of excuses to avoid doing the things he is not comfortable with (although is capable of). He is very quick in saying ‘I can’t do it’ but when prompted and encouraged he can finish the task.
Sometimes, I have got an impression that he is probably not listening. However, it’s hard to judge whether this is to do with poor listening skills or not focusing on the task in hand. I found the evidence to this when he was in preschool. Last summer, kids were supposed to perform a show at the end of the year and we kept hearing from the staff that he is never singing with the kids and is generally doing his own thing. However, they also said that he has been singing the songs lately and when prompted at home, he knew all of them. Hence, I think it’s not poor listening skills.
He also gets upset when things don’t happen or people don’t react or behave in “his way”. While reading a book if he doesn’t like the action of a particular character, he gets upset and hits the book. We constantly try to explain to him that this is not how he should express himself when he is upset.
Another peculiar thing about Wonder Nephew is the inability to control his spatial movements especially when he is excited. He struggles to show his excitement in a contained manner and can sometimes jump on people or give jerky movements to his body which can become quite dangerous for people sitting next to him as his head generally bangs somewhere or the other. He has accidentally banged his head multiple times on dad’s nose/lips/teeth while dad was sitting next to him.
Wonder Nephew has a habit of holding my hair when he is anxious/ tired. He keeps caressing it, sometimes even pulling it. He definitely likes doing it in the night while going to sleep.
Four things that worry me the most about him are (in the order below):
– His lack of focus
– His lack of listening, or ignoring things even after listening
– His lack of spatial awareness.
– His wanting to have everything his way.
I don’t have a theory of what caused this or whether he was always like this. As a baby, I did not find anything odd.
What aggravates the complaint?
– sugar
– Saying ‘No’ to him. He has recently been asking for new toys every day. When answered with a ‘No’, he starts crying/ screaming/ banging his head against our body, hitting and throwing things. (Tantrums if you say no.)
– He always wants to do things his way. He enforces his demands not only on mum and dad but close relatives/friends who visit with us/ friends who come home to see him. I haven’t heard similar complaints from school though. In fact, I think at school he is quite reserved. I observed this on a school trip I volunteered for in November.
– slight delay in meals aggravate/ tiredness/ sleepy etc..
– Influenced by other kids’ behaviours or characters in TV Kids shows.
What makes the complaint better?
– at times by leaving him alone [“Where there is no audience, there is no acting out”–Murphy’s MM. Desires attention.]
Wonder Nephew for some reason has developed a sort of dislike for girls. He always says he does not want to play with girls or with anything that is girly. This suddenly started in his pre-school when he was few months over 3 years old. He prefers boys all the time. Coincidentally, He now goes to an all boys school and is super thrilled to be there with boys.
How does the child react to school?
He was very excited to start school. He still is generally happy to go there.
We like traveling, so now our son’s got accustomed to it. He is generally happy to travel by any means – car, train, bus, aeroplane, etc.
Wonder Nephew is very interested in making friends but is struggling on social interactions, communication etc. due to his condition of ASD. He generally plays along-side kids although he loves to be around them and desires making friends with them. Unfortunately, he does not know how to make friends and so keeps yearning for them.
He loves to play rough and tumble or any game that requires screaming and being playful. He is not a calm child and so has limited interest in board games.
What feed-back do you get from the child’s teachers, baby sitters, etc.?
Wonder Nephew is very interested in having a pet. He is not too much into them but is very keen on having pets like a fish/dog/cat etc. He keeps saying he does not like carnivorous animals as they eat other animals while he himself is a non-vegetarian!
What foods and drinks does your child love?
He also cannot watch/read/experience anything violent like shooting, killing, etc.
How is the child affected by music?
Wonder Nephew likes music and loves singing and listening to the music that he likes. The music he likes is generally loud.
What emotion tends to predominate in the child?
He shows a face of anger (more frowning really) a lot these days. He has started using foul language like shooting/killing etc.
How sensitive is the child to criticism and reprimand?
He does not take it seriously and generally not in the right spirit and portrays his unhappiness or anger.
How cooperative is your child?
Not a lot. Dressing in the morning is generally very demanding on us as parents.
Does your child have any peculiar “sensations” or “traits” that may or may not have anything to do with the chief complaint?
He does talk a lot and repeats himself until someone clearly responds to him.
I would also like to bring in notice a few things we observed around our last trip to India in December to visit Grandparents below:
We went to India on holiday for 3 weeks during the Christmas break. Our son’s routine was very different there at his grandparents place as compared to here at home. He also met his 6 year old cousin. The two kids did get along in spite of language gap (My son cannot speak Hindi. However, they did have quite a lot of disagreements when playing with toys which led to hitting each other. At one instance, Wonder Nephew bit his cousin.
At that point, (the first week of our return), our son showed a very aggressive challenging behaviour that included hitting, banging head on us and biting. On some occasions, he bit me so hard that I was in terrible pain. He had shown a sign of remorse at times and at times none at all. During calm moments like while following bedtime routine, I tried to explain to him that hitting is bad and it hurts others. He was quite receptive in understanding and promises not to repeat this behaviour again. However, he reverted back to the behaviour quite often since then.
As time has passed by (3-4 weeks), he seems to have started settling down a bit.
Does your child throw the covers off at night or stick his or her feet out of the covers?
Yes, he generally throws his covers off at night.
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Wonder Sister, please give your son a dose of ____________________ 200C. Let me know what happens.
Oct. 16, 2018
Elaine…. It has been a while since I got in touch with you about things at our end. “Wonder Nephew” has been keeping well mostly.
Really? How is he doing? Do you remember his original case? As I recall, he was very demanding when he wanted something, there was the whole “springing up suddenly” behavior where he would sometimes injure people; he wouldn’t brush his teeth, there was a problem with getting dressed in the morning for school, plus a lack of empathy for other kids who may have hurt themselves and some trouble doing school work as well. Am I right?
He is still demanding but just like any normal child would be at his age :). The “springing up” has gone down a LOT and so have the injuries from it. It is generally due to a reason. When asked why he behaved like that, he is able to articulate better so we can help him. Brushing teeth isn’t an issue, he does get lost sometimes while brushing when he is thinking of something else but we are mostly able to get him back to do the job! Getting dressed is a lot better. I lay down his clothes at the end of the bed in order and he then dresses himself in the morning. Some days he needs a lot of prodding and reminding him about the task at hand but it isn’t as bothering as it was before. School work is a lot better and so is the empathy with other kids. He is generally not the first to offer help if he sees there are others around but I guess that is his nature. If the person hurt is close to him or he is the only one around, he does offer any help he can 🙂
It is not a perfect world but its a lot better. He does have short attention span, he gets these short bursts where he focuses well. I’m hopeful that with the right support and lot of encouragement and the remedy to the rescue when we are clueless what caused the down-turn, he will get to where he wants to be 🙂
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VOTES:
Stramonium
Belladonna
Carcinosin-2
Tarentula
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So how did our panel of experts do? Who wants to go first?
Hi Elaine and Shana,
Hi, Maria!
For this month’s quiz, I will vote for Stramonium. Probably I am wrong, I thought of other remedies like Cina…
Cina is badly behaved but it is most likely because they have worms. So you would look for the worm indications like nose-itching, eyes and ears itching, anal itching, canine appetite, etc.
…Chamomilla…
Chamomilla is badly behaved because they’re in pain. It could be an ear infection, teething, etc.
It is a difficult quiz, congratulations on helping the child!
I didn’t include all our correspondence, most of it was about Wonder Sister’s reluctance to repeat the remedy when needed, thinking it was like a drug and could accumulate in the liver. I had to explain to her that at the first sign of relapse, they have to repeat the remedy, that it was not like a drug and does not “accumulate”! Once they caught on, the child started to improve consistently.
I had a feeling everyone would vote for Stramonium, just because we always think of Stramonium when we think of violent behavior, and there is a lot of violence here. BUT…. There are also clues to a very different remedy that is also violent, and that remedy is….
Tarentula hispanica!
Let me show you what the Tarentula key words and phrases are in this case:
- jumping on people
To understand this, you have to think about the tarantula in its natural habitat and what it does. They lie in wait for prey–-usually another insect. They hide behind a rock. An unsuspecting insect walks by, and WHAM! The tarantula jumps from his hiding place, springs up, and pounces-–and kills it, of course! And then probably eats it, who knows. It all happens so fast! So the “jumping on people” is something you might see over and over again in a Tarentula case. And not just jumping but “sudden” jumping, which is a big word in Tarentula–-“sudden”.
- jerky, disharmonic movements
This is another sign that you’ve got a Tarentula case-–the “irregular movements”, jerky, non-rhythmic movements, and the sudden “springing up” that they do. This is so common that I’ve told my Tarentula parents that as soon as the child starts “springing up” again, it means he’s relapsing and time to repeat the remedy!
- An obsession with the hair, sometimes pulling it.
Look for “hair-pulling” in a Tarentula case.
- Mother says, “When you tell him, ‘No’, he starts crying/ screaming/ banging his head against your body/hitting and throwing things.”
Yes, all that is Tarentula–-throwing things, screaming, banging his head, hitting. They are violent and dangerous!
- Leaving him alone and bringing distance stops the tantrum.
This is an interesting trait of Tarentula: “When there are no observers, there is no hysteria.”–Murphy’s Materia Medica. So, when the audience goes away, leaves the room, etc., the tantrum stops. They crave an audience/attention.
- “He loves to play rough and tumble or any game that requires screaming and being playful. He is not a very calm child and so has limited interest in board games.”
So you see she’s admitting he’s restless, hyperactive and destructive. “Playing” consists of running around, rough-housing and screaming. This is not what you want in a child! Tarentula children are very destructive, restless and hyper-active.
- “He keeps saying he does not like carnivorous animals as they eat other animals.”
Well, I just think this is so telling, because the tarantula, itself, is a carnivorous animal! And since similars repel, he is repelled by his own “kind”–-carnivores! So revealing! In fact, Tarentula is in the “fear of animals” rubric; probably because, again, aversion to carniverous animals (similars repel).
- The mother describes the child as only “moderately affectionate”.
Tarantulas are cannibals! Cold blooded killers, murderers! Boy, if you had a Tarentula case, you’d know it in a hurry! They don’t like to be hugged, kissed, touched and they lack sympathy for others.
- “He does talk a lot and repeats himself until someone clearly responds to him.”
This might be a keynote of Tarentula that hardly ever gets mentioned; so, remember, you heard it here first! The child talks incessantly and repeats himself, and you have to answer or God help you! This trait can get very annoying and disturbing very fast.
- “However, they did have quite a lot of disagreements when playing with toys which led to hitting each other. At one instance, Wonder Nephew bit his cousin.”
Yes, biting. You will no doubt see biting in a Tarentula case but also hitting others and banging his head into others and hitting himself in the head and banging his head against the wall.
- Doesn’t show remorse.
Yes, no remorse, don’t expect to see any remorse in a Tarentula case.
This is a serious case but also a terribly EASY one because it is so clearly Tarentula!!!! And you know, when you see a clear remedy picture, you’re in good shape for a cure! People have to understand this about homeopathy: the question isn’t, “Do you cure this or that disease?” Or, “How many cases of autism have you cured?” No. We cure a disease only if we see a clear REMEDY PICTURE! This case is a great example of that – a very clear picture of Tarentula. Consequently, in homeopathy, you may find yourself curing autism one day, and then the next day, not being able to cure the common cold!
Is anybody else here today? Oh look, it’s the gang from Slovakia!
Hello Elaine and Shana,
Hello Miroslav and Jitka!
We hope it is not too late to join to the May Quiz.
No, not too late at all.
Miroslav votes for Belladonna: At first I was thinking about Stramonium, especially because of his fear of darkness, not wanting to sleep alone, he wants to touch his mother, he is missing eye contact in conversation with strangers.
Missing eye-contact a common symptom of autism, Miroslav, consequently, we can’t use it. It’s identifying of the disease, but not the person! We’re always looking for symptoms that identify the person. Also, fear of the dark? Not wanting to sleep alone? These are common symptoms of childhood. They identify his age but don’t identify him! So we can’t use that either.
Then I thought about Tarentula and Tuberculinum, but these remedies are cunning, malicious — especially Tuberculinum. The child in this case didn’t seem malicious. There runs a kind of wildness in the whole case, he couldn´t bear resistance, only after this he becomes aggressive, beating, banging head – behaving destructively. Moreover, he is noisy and he likes noise – such a small bulldozer … but he can be nice and cuddly. Fear of darkness has more children’s remedies, but this one, of which Phatak says: “He lives in his own world,“ I chose Belladonna.
Jitka votes for Carcinosin: I think you gave Carcinosin to the boy. You have repeated a few times that if there is a diagnosis in the case, we should start looking for a remedy there. In the chapter: Diseases, the rubric – autism – there are 5 remedies, Carcinosin and Nat-mur. in a grade 2.
You’re right that in cases of autism, Carcinosin is a frequently prescribed remedy and so is Nat-mur. But I think this particular rubric is under-populated. I would have a hard time giving Carcinosin to a child who bites and attacks another child. You’re always looking for the worst thing in a case, the most extreme behavior, because your remedy will have to cover that. We should also be able to tell that this is an “animal” remedy, with his professed hatred for “carnivorous” animals. We should probably assume that he is projecting his own identity onto others.
I chose rubrics from the questionnaire which I noticed in this case and and in most of them Carcinosinum is found.
[Jitka lists a whole bunch of rubrics and ends with…]
Music, loves to listen or play (only 2 remedies: Carc and Tarentula)
Oh geez! So, you were down to 2 remedies, and you didn’t look back and see that Tarentula matched the violence in the case better than Carcinosin?
OK, so, Miroslav came closest with Belladonna, he was on the right track, and he did mention that he was considering Tarentula-–and guess what? It was Tarentula!!!! You know, you have to look at what’s most peculiar and striking in a case, and to me it was the sudden “springing up”-–jumping up-–that he would do without warning, and his head would inevitably hit and injure whoever was sitting next to him.
Well, this is a tell-tale sign of Tarentula. Tarentula has “suddenness”. Here is why. The tarantula spider hides—and hiding is another Tarentula word; you will often find Tarentula hiding in a closet, behind a chair, under the covers or under the bed—so as I was saying, the tarantula sits quietly, hiding behind a rock, waiting for an insect to walk by. All of a sudden, it “springs up” out of nowhere, pouncing on and attacking the unsuspecting insect. Then, just as suddenly, springs back to its hiding place and waits for the next stupid insect to walk by. I told Wonder Sister, “As soon as you see this ‘springing up’ happening again, you have to repeat the remedy, it means he’s relapsing!”
So there you have it, Tarentula hispanica.
I see that Vamsi’s in the house!!!!!
Hi Elaine,
This month’s quiz is too confusing….I am totally lost..
Any help please…:?
Hmm…. Well, Vamsi…. Let’s start with finding what we think might be the “main rubric” — “Mind: hyperactive children” (Murphy’s Repertory). We need a “jumping-off point”, a place to start, as it were. He’s certainly hyperactive; his mother says the only “games” he plays consist of running through the house, rough-housing and screaming, he can’t sit down to quietly learn a board game. So if we say the remedy most likely has to be in the “hyperactive children” rubric, and there are 18 remedies in that rubric which makes it very manageable, then we only have to ask, “Of these 18 hyperactive remedies, which one has the peculiar attributes of this case?”
So, what is peculiar? He says he doesn’t like carnivorous animals. What a bizarre thing to say! It should make you think, “Maybe HE’S a carnivorous animal!” After all, “similars repel”, right? So maybe this is a clue: we need an animal remedy, a carnivore!
So, what else? There’s an issue with hair, constantly pulling the mother’s hair–-sometimes hard. The rubric is, “Mind: Pull, desires to, hair, someone else’s”.
What else is peculiar? He bites! The rubric is “Mind: biting behavior”. What else? The mother says he makes awkward movements. Herky-jerky movements. Oh, and he’s fond of LOUD music!
Is this any help to you?
Thanks a ton for your prompt reply.
Well Elaine, you’ve given me a lot of clarity …
my observations are as below, (with your esteemed guidance?)
- hyperactive kids,
- animal remedy needed
- destructive ( bites and hitting others)
- awkward movements,
- he wants everything his way,
- hates milk (not a Tuberculinum type, as they love milk)
Good point for anyone who was considering Tuberculinum.
- wants pets (dogs and cats – not a Tuberculinum type, hates dogs/cats)
Also true.
- does not sleep alone (either fear of dark, chilliness – wants parents close by)
- clothing bothersome
A common autistic trait, so we can’t use it. Some of them insist on wearing the same clothes every day.
- does not like gloopy food likes smooth food.
Another common autistic trait, Vamsi-–very fussy about food! Food can’t touch the other food, and other crazy ideas! So, we can’t use it.
- pulling the mother’s hair–-sometimes hard, sometimes not (I could not comprehend this symptom?)
It is in the Repertory. He has a fixation on hair.
Though Tuberculinum is also indicated, some of the symptoms don’t go for it…so I would NOT go for Tuberculinum…
But, TARENTULA HISPANICA rules the case!!! Am I on the right path??
Yes! Absolutely! You’re the winner, Vamsi!
Now listen people, pay attention because this is very important! I have noticed there is an issue with females in male Tarentula cases, namely that they hate females, are violent towards them, and in fact, homeopath Vasilis Ghegas has said, “Tarentula is a rapist.” Now, here is the fact that explains this: In mating, the female Tarantula kills the male after sex and eats him!!!!! Can you see now why you would expect to see violence against women or aversion to women/girls in a male Tarentula case?
Another observation: This is the second time I’m hearing that they can behave themselves in school but not at home! Maybe it’s because they have no trouble with a male teacher but if the person at home is a female, it might explain the bad behavior.
Notice that there is always an issue with music in a Tarentula case and in some cases, music and dancing; but, dancing awkwardly and often to loud music with a strong beat.
Desire for attention. Notice how in both cases, both patients were “chatty”, and demanded answers! Replies! You couldn’t just ignore them or blow them off! Massimo Mangialavori says they want to be taken care of and will find ways to make you give them the attention they crave. Notice in the first case, Allen called “Momma, Momma” numerous times a day, for nothing; just to have his blanket “fixed”. Often they will complain that they are sick (when they’re not) and need to go to the hospital; and why? Because hospital patients get lots of attention!!!!!
A lot of references to “suddenness” in a Tarentula case. (“It happened all of a sudden!” “He jumps on you suddenly!”) Sudden jerky movements, springing up suddenly, it’s all due to the “suddenness” by which tarantulas have to move in order to ambush their prey. So, when you think of what Tarentula is known for: hyperactivity, speed, hurriedness, restlessness, hurrying up others who, to them, are moving too slow…this is why. It all starts with their need to be quick to catch their prey. So, speed is a theme in this remedy. Even their concept of “play”—running through the house, knocking things over, screaming, rather than sitting down to play cards or a board game, all points to Tarentula.
There’s an issue with hair—needing to hold hair, pull hair…so be on the lookout for that.
Hiding—hiding in the closet, under the covers, etc. It all stems from the tarantula’s need to conceal themselves from potential prey. Hiding is a big part of what they do. Hiding and holding perfectly still. It’s an interesting polarity between hyperactivity/speed and holding perfectly still, you might see both behaviors in the same case.
Finally, destruction, even self-destruction, biting others, biting themselves, and violence are to be expected.
Miroslav mentioned “cunning” and “deceitful”. Yes, especially in the females. Hey! Maybe Angelica is a Tarentula!
Well, that’s for another day!
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Elaine Lewis, DHom, CHom
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